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Father-Son Relationship September 24, 2008

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Father and son have a very unique relationship. A birth of a son is the happiest event in life of a father. Son, as he grows up and becomes aware of his surroundings, considers his father as most perfect man, because he sees everything through the eyes of his father. This relationship goes on changing as the son grows old and a set pattern is formed. This relationship could be very cordial and respectful; however it could also deteriorate and become very inimical. This relationship also depends upon the external factors which one faces in one’s life and the Samskars one receives from his elders. In our civilisation there is very close bondage between father and son. Desha Kal and Patra also has played an important role in evolution of this relationship.

Our scriptures do indicate the code of conduct for both father and son. You must be knowing better.
I think Sage Manu in “Manusmriti” lays down an approved dharamic behaviour pattern between a father and a son.

Subhashita Manjari – states that all the following are to be treated as a father:
1. One who gives birth.
2. One who initiates (to begin, start, introduce, enlighten, inform).
3. One who teaches.
4. One who feeds.
5. And, one who protects from fear.
Regarding the bad relations, I could think of Hiranyakashyap, who tortured his son Prahalad and Vajravas who, in a fit of anger offered his son Nachiketa to Yamraj. In recent history we also know of Aurengzeb who tortured his father Shahjahan and held him captive for years. And of course as you say Ajatshatru and Bimbisara
Our Indian history is full of dutiful sons. Our favourite hero, Lord Ram happily went to Banvasa to enable his father, Dshratha to keep his promise, which he had made to his beautiful wife Keykai in the battlefield when she had saved his life during the battle. Sharavan carried his parents in a Palaki slung on his shoulders for pilgrimage to religious places.

There are many examples of devoted fathers who would do anything to see their son happy. Dhratrashtra, the blind King, the father of Kauravas, due to his unfathomed love for his son, Duryodhan, accepted all the evil demands of his son, which ultimately resulted in bloody war between the Pandavas and the Kauravas, the Great Mahabharata.

There are many examples of cruel and bad fathers. Hirnakashyap, who tortured his son endlessly as he wanted that his son, Prahalad to worship him only and not the Almighty. Yet another case when Vajsravas, the father in fit of anger offered his son, Nachiketa to Yamraj.

Then came a time, when Mughal princes mostly came to power after eliminating their father Kings, either by killing him or confining him in the jail.

In the modern world, the relationship of father and son is becoming daunting challenge the dictum of Desh, Kal, and Patra. Due to the effect of Western Culture and the unitary form of family unit, the father son relationship is fast changing. A child is left to himself to face the hard facts of life and evolve his principles and rules of life without the protection of his parents.

A child needs the help of father to satisfy of his emotional and physical needs as he is young and is groping in the unknown world alone without any help. He is lucky if he finds help from his parents and other family member such as grand parents. As the time passes the scene changes and the parents in the old age when they are physically and mentally not so strong, need help from their children. The protective role in the father and son relationship changes. In India, the father and son are enter-dependent emotionally and at times physically on each other.

To my mind, these are the important points of consideration for this relationship:

  1. In a chart, Lagna represents the self and 5H represents son and the poorva Janam Kramas. One gets the good or bad children based on the Poorva Janam Karmas. 9H represents father and Prarabdha Karmas and gets birth from a father as indicated by one’s Prarabdha karmas. Therefore one becomes father and son only if their past Karmas are such which they are destined to enjoy or suffer in this Janama.
  2. So 1-5-9 houses are the important houses to the subject at hand. Basically, for all Lagna’s the Lords of the 1st, 5th and 9th Houses are natural friends. It is the wish of God! that an individual (the Lagna), his child (the 5H) and father ( the 9H), have a cordial relationship and live happily. The 1H, the 5H and the 9H represent the ‘Trines’ and the trines are the abode of Goddess Lakshmi, who rules prosperity. They are therefore considered to be the best Houses in a horoscope. In addition, these Houses do not go bad very easily.
  3. In Hindu way of life, there are four purushaarths: Dharma, Artha, Kama and Moksha. The first Trikona is the Dharma and is represented by 1st, 5th and 9th Houses. Here, if 1H means character, 5H his intelligence and 9H his sense of righteousness. These trines of duty, will show us how one follows Dharma ā€“ the first purpose of human existence.
  4. The principle of ‘Bhavat Bhavam’ states that the 5th H is the 9th from the 9thH and the 9th H is the 5th from the 5th H.
  5. Karakas: The karaka for the 1H is Sun, for the 5H ā€“ Jupiter and the 9H ā€“ Jupiter and Sun. They are both sattwic planets and are natural friends. The Karaka for Father is Sun and for Son is Jupiter. In kalapurusha kundli, the Sun owns the 5H and Jupiter the 9H.
  6. It therefore follows that when you deal with 3 good houses and 2 sattwic planets, who are both – the significators for Father and Son and the karakas of the 1st, 5th and 9th Houses in a horoscope, you are obviously handling something of great importance and significance.
  7. Varga charts of both father and son. Saptamsha is seen for children (son); the Saptamsha Lagna will represent the self of son and its 9H will indicate details regarding the father of Saptamsha lagna (son). Dwadamsha is seen for parents (father); its Lagna will represent the father of the person whose Dwadamsha it is; and its 5H will represent the son of this father.
  8. Dashas: The pattern of dashas and transits will further unfold the facets of this relationship and depict the fluctuations and swings that crop up from time to time.

A comparative study of all these elements in two charts can give a good view of this unique relationship.
I shall add some examples in a later post.

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